What Could He Possibly See in Her?

What Could He Possibly See in Her?

September 5, 2019 4 By Nancy Oehlert

It was a beautiful day for a wedding! The sun was shining, and there was a light, cool breeze. The venue was lush and meticulously manicured for the event. 

As the guests arrived, they ambled down a curved path that led to the ceremony site. Long, straight rows of white chairs stood out against all the greenery. 

“Bride’s side or groom’s?” the usher asked. 

“Groom’s! Definitely the Groom’s side,” came the response. 

He could have done SO much better!

Sadly, and to the Bride’s embarrassment, nearly everyone in attendance asked to be seated on the groom’s side. There was the usual pre-ceremony whispering. Someone was overheard to say, “He’s marrying beneath himself. What does he see in her?”

“They’re so miss-matched, so ill-suited. He is so loyal! No way is she ready to get married and settle down. She still flirts and fools around with other lovers!”

“Imagine the poor children. Heaven help any babies brought into this family! The Bride is so into herself, so selfish. She’s too busy doing her own thing. The babies will be neglected…or abused! And can you imagine how it will break the Groom’s heart if the babies grow up and take after her?”

“And what about his other children? He talks about them from time to time. How will the Bride treat his other kids? Will she even acknowledge that they’re his?”

“Their finances are going to be another issue. She spends most of the money on herself.  It’s always about what she wants, where she wants to go, what she wants to do. He and the children get what’s left. Since he gave her control of the money, some of the kids go hungry and without medical care. But he keeps trusting her to do the right thing.”

The few people seated in the Bride’s section couldn’t help noticing the ‘lopsided’ crowd. These few all loved the Groom, as well. They each had a special relationship with him but also had concern for his Bride. It was sad that many people at the wedding would leave his Bride feeling unsupported. This smaller crowd realized that because of the marriage, having a relationship with the Groom would require them to love his Bride as well. They saw her flaws but chose to love her anyway, for His sake.

I’ve been that bride!

I’ve been the one who flirts with the world and looks elsewhere for love and acceptance. I’ve been the gal that spends money on what I want, and have let His children go without. I’ve ‘played favorites’ with His children, refusing to acknowledge some of them as legitimate. Who was I to decide?

The Bible contains many scriptures in both the Old and the New Testaments that compare our relationship with God to a marriage. This shows God’s desire for intimate fellowship with his people. For example, in the fifth chapter of Ephesians, Paul paints a picture of the church as the Bride of Christ.

In the Old Testament, the first three chapters in the book of Hosea tell how the prophet was commanded to marry an unfaithful wife in a symbolic representation of God’s relationship with his chosen people. The book of Revelation also speaks about the Bride and the wedding supper. Paul says in 2 Corinthians 11:2-3,

      I am jealous for you with a godly jealousy. I promised you to one husband, to Christ, so that I might present you as a pure virgin to him. 

The following quote sums it up beautifully,

“We have indeed been promised to one husband, Christ. God wants us to love and be devoted to him like marriage partners. But we’ve all blow it. We’ve all messed up. We’ve been deceived and led astray from pure devotion to him.” (Marvin Bryant)

We’ve all blown it. We’ve all messed up. We’ve all been unfaithful. 

But Christ forgives. He even forgets! 

And yet He still desires to be in a relationship with us. 

As the song says,

The steadfast love of the Lord never cease

His mercies never come to an end.

They are new every morning.

Great is your faithfulness!

Are you the Bride that Jesus desires and sees you can be? Celebrate the anniversaries! Renew the vows! 


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